Leftist social engineers have been trying for several decades now to get us to believe that there is no difference between men and women, that each is interchangeable…and often that men are optional or disposable. They have tried to convince us that children are like a potted plant that can get by on a little bit of water and sunlight every now and then.
Some of us never bought that bottle of snake oil, and now the “professionals” are starting to figure out what those know-nothing primitives who lived prior to the 1950s knew all along: parents–including fathers–play a critical role in the healthy development of children.
The Wall Street Journal features an article about 16 long-term studies of father involvement that were published in the journal Acta Paediatrica in 2008.
Here are some excerpts from the WSJ article:
The rough play is already benefiting her older daughter, who is “a little timid,” Ms. Schiermeier says. “She has toughened up a little” playing with her dad. “He is teaching her how to take the blows of life, and to get in there and fight.” All three kids are learning to take turns and work as a team. For Mr. Schiermeier, that is intentional: “I push them to get outside their comfort zones.”…
…Parenting patterns may be rooted in neurological differences. Under stress, research shows, men’s brains are wired to respond to challenges physically, leaping into action. Women are more likely to withdraw or shut down…
…Because fathers have had to learn to manage their own impulses to strike out or react physically to frustration, they may be better equipped than mothers to help children manage their own urges to behave badly, Dr. Pruett says….
…Fathers’ impact on kids’ behavior may begin as early as infancy, a 2009 analysis in Behavioral and Brain Sciences suggests. Mothers tend to keep their babies calm, gazing at them, babbling together and affectionately touching them, based on video analyses of mothers and fathers interacting with their 5-month-old infants.
In contrast, fathers tend to get the babies more excited and laughing, often playing physical games that startle or arouse them.
The differences persist as children grow older. Research shows that mothers of older children tend to talk more with their children about their frustrations, while fathers may try to distract a child and encourage him or her to move on.
Another reason involved fathers help kids, of course, is that families often function better when two parents are working as a team to give children what they need, supporting each other’s efforts.
Research is beginning to catch up to what human beings once understood instinctively just 50 years ago or less: that men and women are different, that each has unique giftings that they bring to the table of parenting, and that both are extremely important to raising healthy, well-adjusted chilren.
Sometimes it can be impossible in this fallen world to give a child the home they deserve. The death of a parent, or a divorce forced on one spouse against their will by another can rob a child of a parent.
But we are also now engineering homes that deliberately rob a child of a mother or a father: single-parent adoptions, pregnancies with no intent to marry, artificial insemination of single women, and adoptions by homosexuals.
The games we are playing with marriage and family, and the self-centered behavior we adults display in relationships, has left our nation’s children swinging in the wind. We’ve pretended that because we wanted no-fault divorce, because we wanted the “benefits” of cohabitation, because we wanted the freedom from responsibility offered by the welfare state, because we wanted to have whatever relationship we’re in or not in masquerade as “marriage” and the proper setting for family.
Because we adults have placed our own short-term desires ahead of our children’s welfare while telling ourselves “They’ll be okay,” we now have two or three generations of children that are on prescription drugs to keep them docile, on recreational drugs to cope with a sense of purposelessness, locked up in juvenile detention or jail for acting out their anger at being left high and dry by the “grownups,” or knocked up after looking for daddy’s love in all the wrong places.
We have taught our children that they are our second, third or fourth priority after satisfying our gonads, our career ambitions, and social agendas….and we wonder why they misbehave and do so poorly in school.
Isn’t it time the grownups started acting like grownups and put our children at the top of our priorities–and did all we can to ensure that they grow up with engaged mothers and fathers in the home?
HT: NOM Blog.