Candor from a Homosexual Doctor on ‘the Gay Party Male’

 

Bondage demonstration at Folsom Street Fair. (Source: Wikimedia Commons)

CitizenLink drew my attention yesterday to an article in the homosexual publication The Advocate.  It was written by Dr. Frank Spinelli, a homosexual doctor who has apparently seen so much illness and risky behavior in the homosexual community, he feels compelled to write about it.  Spinelli has specialized in treating homosexual men, so he knows the behavior–and the results–better than most.

He talks about the health problems, which include “recreational drugs, penile discharge, or the risk of contracting HIV from unprotected sexual encounters” that are multiplied exponentially when homosexuals gather for big events like “Gay Pride, Folsom Street Fair, Gay Days at Disney, or any one of the Atlantis cruises.”

Spinelli has a different take on the substance abuse problems that plague the homosexual community. Normally when the elevated risk of substance abuse comes up in discussing the many unhealthy aspects of the homosexual lifestyle, we are told by homosexual apologists that this is because homosexuals suffer so much from not being accepted that they have to deaden the pain with intoxicants.

I’m sure there is some element of truth to this (no one likes not being accepted), but it ignores the fact that there is a valid reason why homosexual behavior is not usually widely accepted: it is unnatural, immoral and highly unhealthy, and most people cannot help but realize this. This excuse also ignores the fact that negative societal pressure frequently should motivate us to change our behavior: from the condemnation of someone who cuts in line, to the person who picks their nose in public, as well as being falling-down-drunk in public, we should feel shame for bad behavior. Put another way, our conscience exists for a purpose: to bother us when we do wrong, and motivate us to do right.

These traditional excuses also ignore the fact that even in areas where homosexual behavior has long been openly accepted (San Francisco in the States, and various areas of Europe), the same health problems and substance abuse problems are found in the homosexual community. Dr. Spinelli may be onto something.

In fact, he admits that homosexuals allow themselves to fall victim to their passions and desires:

Of course, the obvious culprit is that we are fueled by our desires, whether these are sexual or drug-fueled escapes, especially when these desires have been liberated after years of confusion and confinement. Who wouldn’t want to go on a sex, drug, and alcohol binge while drifting through the Caribbean on a gay cruise where there are no judgmental eyes watching your every move?

On February 6 the Royal Caribbean ship Allure of the Seas set sail from Port Everglades, Fla. In what was billed as the largest gay cruise ever, Atlantis hosted more than 5,400 passengers. “Where does it go?” I asked one patient as he reviewed a list of prescriptions he would need for his upcoming trip: Cialis, Xanax, and Ambien …

“Who cares,” he said. “I’m never getting off the boat.” Several days later the text messages started to arrive, “This trip is a disaster. Guys are overdosing left and right. The authorities boarded the ship and arrested a drug dealer. They have dogs and they’re making surprise room searches.”

Following your desires isn’t a problem confined to the homosexual community; premarital sex and STD rates among heterosexuals, though not as high as in the homosexual community, are high enough to make this problem evident. But it may be exacerbated by the fact that many of the factors which can and often do germinate responsibility in the heterosexual male (the possibility of producing a child, then being responsible for raising that child, not to mention the responsibility for a full-blown family) are simply not a factor for the homosexual.

Homosexuals are incapable of producing children no matter how promiscuous and irresponsible their sexual behavior may be, so some of the factors which tend to rein in heterosexual hedonism, even if only slightly, are completely missing in the homosexual community.

That “reward system” impulse is something that every human being can override, however. It’s seldom easy, especially at first, but we do have an intelligence and a will to override our desires.  This is much easier with the support of others, and ministries like Exodus International can help.  Though some homosexual activists will lie to keep others entrapped with them, the truth is homosexuals can change and lead a happy heterosexual life.  In fact, the recovery rate for homosexuals is better than that for alcoholics and drug users.

Gay Pride Parade 2007 in New York City (Photo credit: Boss Tweed)

But is it really that bad in the homosexual community? A San Francisco study found that among white male homosexuals studied, 75% had 100 or more sexual partners, 60% had 250 or more sexual partners, 43% had 500 or more sexual partners, and 28%, the largest subcategory, reported over 1,000 sexual partners. Some 98% reported having sex with strangers, with 79% reporting that half their sex partners were strangers. Indeed, a growing number of studies are finding that monogamy is almost non-existent in the homosexual community, and even when homosexuals claim to be monogamous, the term is usually highly qualified.

Further, Dr. Spinelli–himself a homosexual–certainly thinks so:

If 5,400 people, mostly gay men, go on an Atlantis cruise, what percentage will succumb to the impulses of the reward system by using recreational drugs, drinking alcohol, and engaging in unsafe sex? Now take that number and multiply it by 10. Despite the arrest, Atlantis announced that it will repeat the trip in 2012. I hope it’s over a weekend when I’m not on call.

So is it compassionate to affirm this kind of dangerous behavior? Is it the loving thing to do to pretend that homosexual behavior is natural, moral and healthy? If we were seeing these kinds of problems from smokers, drinkers or drug users, wouldn’t there be a massive public service campaign to dissuade people from this behavior, in order to save their lives and health?

I’m certain we would all agree that there would be such a public health campaign. So why is there none (and actually a strong unofficial campaign of affirmation and encouragement of this behavior) when it comes to a politically correct but dangerous sexual behavior? Do we care so little about homosexuals that we are unwilling to try to save their lives?  Or are we afraid of being called names by the politically correct herd?

9 Responses to “Candor from a Homosexual Doctor on ‘the Gay Party Male’”

  1. Homosexual men use drugs for recreation like heterosexuals, but some are used specifically to enhance their sexual activities. When I lived in San Francisco and was peripherally engaged with a homosexual group Amyl Nitrate “poppers” were all the rage. Inhalation of the volatile drug just prior to orgasm produces an instantaneous intense high that lasts only a few minutes.

    The following quote is from a web site that sells “poppers” and other items of interest to homosexual men:

    “Amyl nitrate was discovered in 1857, and it used to be used for the treatment of angina. It was packed in thin glass vials, which were crushed to release the volatile nitrate. Common street names include amyl nitrate, amyl poppers, poppers, Rush, snappers or liquid gold.

    “Amyl nitrate comes in small, mesh-covered ampules that are popped or snapped to release the vapors. Nitrates are especially used in the gay population as a muscle relaxant and a vasodilating agent to enhance orgasm; the perception of time is also altered.”

    Most homosexual men are obsessed with sex, which may be why they choose the homosexual path in the first place. Few heterosexuals rise to the levels of promiscuity that this article describes. The rampant use of drugs among sodomites is mostly about sex and sometimes used to assault straight young men, as I can attest.

  2. Homosexual men use drugs for recreation like heterosexuals, but some are used specifically to enhance their sexual activities. When I lived in San Francisco and was peripherally engaged with a homosexual group Amyl Nitrate “poppers” were all the rage. Inhalation of the volatile drug just prior to orgasm produces an instantaneous intense high that lasts only a few minutes.

    The following quote is from a web site that sells “poppers” and other items of interest to homosexual men:

    “Amyl nitrate was discovered in 1857, and it used to be used for the treatment of angina. It was packed in thin glass vials, which were crushed to release the volatile nitrate. Common street names include amyl nitrate, amyl poppers, poppers, Rush, snappers or liquid gold.

    “Amyl nitrate comes in small, mesh-covered ampules that are popped or snapped to release the vapors. Nitrates are especially used in the gay population as a muscle relaxant and a vasodilating agent to enhance orgasm; the perception of time is also altered.”

    Most homosexual men are obsessed with sex, which may be why they choose the homosexual path in the first place. Few heterosexuals rise to the levels of promiscuity that this article describes. The rampant use of drugs among sodomites is mostly about sex and sometimes used to assault straight young men, as I can attest.

  3. Excellent article, Bob. This is just about the last word on the subject. The above article perfectly reflects the realities I’ve seen in homosexuals’ lives for myself. Denying those realities only does harm to those who are living it. Supposedly happy, healthy, fulfilled, monogamous gay couples are nothing but a mythical facade masking the ugly truth.

    Disagree with the article? Go ahead and bring on the usual emotional arguments, name-calling, logical fallacies, etc. You won’t say anything we haven’t already heard and processed many times before.

    “why they choose the homosexual path in the first place”
    Sorry, Dr. Theo, but I have to take issue with this statement. It’s unfair to say that homosexuals simply “chose” to take that path. Show me a gay man, and I’ll show you someone who got to where he is mainly due to factors beyond his control.

  4. …although, of course, he can (and should) take responsibility for going the right way from there.

  5. I’m with Dr. Theo, DCM. There is ALWAYS a point of choice for each of us. I experienced that moment in my life as well. I could’ve chosen a homosexual path, but I rejected it. Childhood sexual abuse is a terrible thing, but ultimately we are each responsible for our own choices. Just because homosexuality is such a powerful addiction, does not mean we did not take ourselves willingly there.

  6. You’re right in that there is always an element of choice. I just have problems with anything that smacks of the common false dilemma of “they’re either born that way or they chose it.”
    Gay people generally feel that they didn’t choose their addiction, and there are reasons for that. Just as there is always an element of choice, there is also always an element of things beyond their control. It’s the same for other issues, particularly sexual addictions. So focusing only on the element of choice doesn’t tell the whole story that anyone who honestly seeks to understand homosexuality should know.

  7. Understanding homosexuality is easy. It’s a sin, period. Why do we do any of the sins we do? The tendency to sin is in all of our spirits since the fall.

    What’s beyond our control are things like childhood sexual abuse. A child is no match for an adult bent on evil, and that abuse causes problems for children as they get older, and without the knowledge of God and redemption through Jesus, many people choose to give in to those proclivities, and many homosexuals “believe” they didn’t choose their path, but they did.

  8. DCM, most alcoholics and drug addicts would tell you that they did not chose that way of life. It just happened. They may have made some poor decisions that contributed to their condition, but they didn’t make a conscious choice to become addicted. I believe homosexuality is of the same nature. It is a choice that may have some underlying contributing issues, but ultimately, it is a choice just as Gina has said.

  9. No homosexual man wakes up one day and says that he is full fledged “gay” and dives immediately headlong into the lifestyle (yes, there is a lifestyle, as much as homo-activist would protest this term’s use.)

    There is the inception of the struggle, the point of the weakest urgings of same-sex attraction, which is the point at which he should do something about it. The longer he tolerates, and dallies with, these urgings, the more confirmed he becomes in that rut of thinking and emoting. This early period of the initial promptings of his conscience is the point at which he is most accountable for his course of action. Adams initial sin, the doubting of God in deference to Satan’s snare, was the horrendous sin, not the ensuing continuation of sinning. The later, deeper, habitual involvement in homosexuality are merely the logical outcome to this early failure to deal responsibly with sin when it first occurs. We are all guilty of this in the realm of our own weaknesses; I know that I am in many areas.

    So, when you are referring to homosexuals in the full-fledged expression of the lifestyle, with the activist mindset, you are, in a sense, correct they they don’t choose the path that they are on. But they were much more culpable in their earlier path on that sin.