An article in Psychology Today by Joe Kort illustrates not only the chaos and instability common to most homosexual relationships, but also the fact that every assertion of normality by homosexual activists must be parsed very closely to determine the exact nature of the claims being made.
Kort tells of his learning experience about so-called monogamy in homosexual culture:
I’ve wanted to write an article on this topic ever since I began working with a gay male couple who told me that they were monogamous. After several months, however, they informed me they had had a three-way. When I asked if they had changed from monogamy, they said, “No.”
I was confused. Maybe I hadn’t gotten the correct information in our initial consultation? I told them, “I thought you told me you were monogamous,” and they said, “We are.” Now I was REALLY confused! So I said, “But you just told me you were monogamous.”
Their reply was, “We are monogamous. We only have three-ways together, and are never sexual with others apart from each other.” Okay, now I was slowly getting it.
I quickly learned to ask what a couple means when they say they’re monogamous.
I suppose it shouldn’t come as a surprise that some people would call a situation that is definitely non-monogamous “monogamy” when many of these same people insist a practice is normal, natural and healthy even though it violates the obvious function and use of body parts, takes place in only 2.9% of the population, and involves higher risks of health threats like AIDS, STDs, hepatitis, depression, substance abuse, suicide and domestic violence.
It also shouldn’t be a surprise that people who would redefine marriage–something obviously between a man and a woman–to encompass two men or two women, would also define monogamy as including relationships with third, fourth, fifth or whatever parties.
This article is obviously not a good standard for reinforcing the obvious immorality and unhealthiness of homosexual relationships, since it takes a decidedly nonjudgmental tone throughout, but the momentary glimpses of the reality of homosexual relationships is enlightening.
Mention is made also of another source pointing to the low rate of monogamy in homosexual relationships:
In his book, The Soul Beneath the Skin, David Nimmons cites numerous studies which show that 75% of gay male couples are in successful open relationships.
This coincides with other studies such as a Canadian one that found only 25% of homosexual relationships more than one year old were monogamous. Other studies have found the monogamy rate drops below 5% by the time the relationship is 10-15 years old. The Handbook of Family Diversity also found that many self-described monogamous homosexual relationships reported an average of 3-5 outside partners in the previous year.
These figures also beg the question of whether even the figures cited in the Canadian study and in Nimmons book may be overstated, given the “loose” definition of monogamy in the homosexual community.
Monogamy is essentially like pregnancy: you can’t be a little bit pregnant. Either you are monogamous, or you aren’t.
And if you aren’t, then you run the risk of bringing disease into the relationship with your regular sex partner.
This issue also touches on the issue of allowing homosexuals to call their unions “marriage” and on adoptions by homosexuals.
Do we want children not only intentionally deprived of a mother or father, but also exposed to the sexual and relational chaos of the typical homosexual relationship? Do we want to place children in homes where the adults take such irresponsible risks with their own health–further threatening the short-term and long-term stability of the children?
I think any sane person would have to answer: no way.