Missouri: Being Right While Being
Wronged Can Be Expensive
By Carrie K. Hutchens
Being right, while
being wronged, can be expensive in Missouri! Ask Gary and Cynthia
Stocklaufer, the young couple that went to court to adopt a
relative's son only to have the child taken from them. Taken from
them because someone within the system
decided that Gary was too fat to be a father. He "might" get
sleep apnea. He "might" develop diabetes. Oh those almighty "Mights"!
What if all adoptions were based upon all the "mights" that are out
there?
"Might" grow older.
"Might" lose one's
looks.
"Might" develop an
allergy.
"Might" turn gray.
"Might" lose some
hair.
"Might" get stressed
out from all the worry of the "mights" and have a stroke.
Missouri needs to get
real and take a long hard look at how it enables social workers and
guardians to impose their personal biases where they have no right
to be imposing them. As it has been for some time, a Missouri social
worker can play god according to themselves. One mentality is... "I
do not believe in spanking, so if you spank, I shall take your
children from you on the grounds of abuse. Not that it is illegal in
Missouri to spank your child, but up to me to decide if it is abuse.
Can you afford the fight? I thought not! You will do it my way or
else!
And that seems to be
the KEY ISSUE in this situation -- "my beliefs are ultimate"!!!...
I'm a little confused
as to where "rational thought" is suppose to have existed in this
case.
The Stocklaufers have
been quality parents for years. Even been deemed foster care
parents. But suddenly Gary is too fat to adopt? Good enough to be
have his other son... Good enough to be a foster parent, but just
suddenly... too fat to be Max's father? How amazing is that?
Some people who think
their size is acceptable, have made horrendous comments suggesting
Gary is an unacceptable parent because he is allegedly a bad
example. That he is allegedly addicted to food. That he allegedly
has no discipline. I'd say, instead, that the accusers' mouths are
full of vile, that they are addicted to bias and that they are the
ones that can't control the negativity of their existence and
assumptions.
I rather see a fat
man raising a child in a loving environment, than a child being
raised by a skinny, self-absorbed person that wouldn't know love
even if they were paid a million dollars to figure it out.
It doesn't matter how
right Gary and Cynthia are! It doesn't matter how wronged they were
when the court took Max from them! The fight to get their sweet baby
back is going to take money! Money that they don't have! Just what
Missouri social services was counting on? One can only assume that
to be so.
Gary cares enough to
have agreed to an operation. He is willing to do whatever it takes
to get Max back.
What is Missouri
willing to do?
It has already used
its power and resources, no matter how wrong, to out-power and
out-resource the Stocklaufers!
Missouri is to be
considered an example of integrity and true concern for the
well-being of children?!?!?! And who started that rumor? It
certainly wasn't me.
Abuse of power is
abuse of power and when it involves toying with the lives of
children and their families, I think the state and state workers
should be held strictly accountable. Accountable and forced to foot
all the bills that are incurred as a result of having to fight them,
when they step over-the-line and enforced their bias, rather than
the law. After all, accountability has a way of weeding out the
people on the god-trip, making room for the truly dedicated who
understand respect, understand children, understand rumors and
understand the devastation that a wrongful accusation and wrongful
decision can cause.
The Stocklaufers have
to fight an organization that is funded by the taxpayers. An
organization that can simply take people's children away without the
norm of having to worry about where its money is coming from for
attorneys, experts, and other related expenses. It is all just in a
day's work. How empowering that must be to the god-like and
misguided alike. Parents beware!
Gary Stocklaufer "IS"
going all out and beyond in his attempt to bring little Max home
where he belongs! May the homecoming be just around the corner on a
short block that leads to hope and love becoming the story of the
day!
Carrie Hutchens
is a former law enforcement officer and a freelance writer who is
active in fighting against the death culture movement and the
injustices within the judicial and law enforcement systems.
